This is a letter to the mom on Marilyn Denis yesterday. I happened to catch this portion of the show
while at the gym. She commented on
feeling overwhelmed with two kids and a house that showed fingerprints, having
to wipe the counter numerous times in an hour.
She also mentioned putting the 3 year old down in front of the TV to
give her time to tend to her infant.
When it was uncovered that her husband left early for the gym, the
advice was to ask Dad to stay home and help.
I have alternate advice for this pleading mother...
I think it is so
important that your husband gets this gym time.
I am sure that this time that he takes for himself helps him to prepare for
the day ahead. Now, I’m just a mother of
one, and a new mother at that. And I
feel like I should be careful here, I don’t mean to sound like I am placing
judgement. I am not. But I have made the gym an important part of
my day, and I realize the importance of this in my life. They have a daycare, where for $32 a month,
my daughter can stay for 2 hours a day.
I get a workout, and most importantly a shower. I heard a quote once, and I want to share it with
you. “If you take care of yourself
first, then you have the strength to take care of your family.” I think that you need to find some ‘me’ time
in your day. It took me months to figure
this out. I threw my back out a couple
of times and I couldn’t walk for 5 days.
Being back to the gym has made me stronger.
As for your morning routine, I encourage you to take a
different approach. Try putting on the
spa channel and not the TV. Make a play
space with toys that will engage your 3 year old while you take care of your
baby. Stop and say three things out
loud that you are grateful for. Have fun with your day. Get on the floor and play with your
kids. And take half an hour somewhere
later in the day to wipe up the mess.
Smile and remember how crazy it got at times, these are the little
things.
I hope this helps you find more peace in your day.
Sandy Jamieson
